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Emotional Quotient

December 1, 2008

I have been wanting to blog about EQ (Emotional Quotient) for a while now.  Ever since a friend of mine introduced the idea to me really.  It is intriguing.  I don’t understand all the ins and outs of it, but basically it goes something like this.  IQ (intelligence Quotient) is a measure of your intellectual capability and to a certain degree, places limits on what you should be able to accomplish in the way of higher education.  There are quite a few break downs or “reference charts” but here’s an example breakdown from wikipedia:

IQ Range (15SD)

Intelligence Classification

1-24

Profound Mental Retardation

25–39

Severe Mental Retardation

40–54

Moderate Mental Retardation

55–69

Mild Mental Retardation

70–84

Borderline Mental Retardation

85-114

Average Intelligence

115-129

Bright

130-144

Moderately Gifted

145-159

Highly Gifted

160-175

Exceptionally Gifted

Over 175

Profoundly Gifted

I couldn’t find one that I have seen before, but for each “classification” there is an expected limit to the level of education an individual would be able to complete.  (i.e., somewhere around “Moderately Gifted” and above would be able to accomplish a Ph-D).

So if IQ is a measure of intellectual ability, EQ is a measure of emotional ability or, as I have seen a few places, Emotional Intelligence.  Though some seem to think it’s a bunch of hogwash, the theory is that even if someone has a lower IQ but a high EQ it would allow them to accomplish things beyond what is expected of their IQ classification.  When my friend was telling me about all this, he mentioned that IQ cannot really be changed or improved, but EQ can.  Interesting.

So I just took a random emotional litercy test (the emotional IQ test was $8.99) and it was 12 questions long (and FREE).  They described it this way:

Emotional intelligence is not merely about controlling emotional responses for one’s own benefit an; that of others. It is also about using emotion where suitable. Emotion is, after all, at the heart of that sincerity which reassures, persuades and affords confidence; emotion triggers flight or fight, sometime-appropriately; emotion is necessary if we are to cope, for example, with bereavement; emotion can lie at the source of our greatest joys. The emotionally intelligent are like parents to their emotions, acknowledging their needs, loving them, indulging them where appropriate, encouraging their creativity yet restraining them from foolish, destructive or discourteous behaviour. To extend the metaphor, the emotionally intelligent are neither of the school which believes that emotions should be repressed – “seen but not heard,” nor of that which would allow the little darlings to “express themselves freely to the discomfort or dismay of others. Emotional literacy with regard to others can only be learner by reference to the ABC of one’s own emotions. If, therefore, you are not at ease with your own emotions, you will find it hard to relate to others and to respond appropriately to them.

After answering the questions here’s what it said:

Your robust attempts to master your emotions are praiseworthy but frequently ill-judged and unsympathetic. You defend yourself from “unworthy” emotions by simulating appropriate responses, but you tend to give rent-free space in your head to people and things which were better considered, understood and consigned to the emotional data-bank for subsequent use. Try allowing emotions, even emotions which seem unworthy – anger, fear, frailty, depression, etc. – into harmless contexts such as when listening to music or watching films, explore them and acknowledge them. They are part of the armoury of wisdom.

Although I get a little lost in the language they use here, I think there’s some truth to their summary.  Food for thought.

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