Archive for December, 2008


December 12, 2008

Well, I finally responded.  A while back I blogged about a message I got from a friend of mine who I know from college.  He and his wife were on staff with the parachurch organization that I was heavily involved in all four years of college.  I co-“led” a homegroup with him and was friends with both him and his wife.  I finally responded to him today.  A friend of mine posted a reponse to the message I received as I sent it to a few folks in my support network for prayer and thoughts on my response.  I got some great feedback from others as well.  I have been thinking about it some but just wasn’t ready to respond.  Anyway, I literally just sent it so who knows what kind of response I will receive, but here is what I wrote:

Hello (Friend’s name here) : ) 

It is good to hear from you. I hope you and (wife) and the kids are doing well. Please say “hi” for me!

Let me start my response by saying that I sincerely appreciate your concern as well as your willingness to dialogue with me about this. To cut to the chase, it all boils down to hermeneutics/interpretation. The context of the passage as well as the way the translators chose to interpret the words from hebrew or greek make a big difference in how any given passage is understood and applied today. I don’t think the truths change, I just think there is some legwork required to sort out the foundational truth(s) from the cultural application of Biblical times. So I am by no means ignoring the Bible as a whole or parts of it. The Bible is the inspired word of God. That said, I don’t cover my head in church and I don’t give money the the church in Jerusalem even though the Bible specifically says we are to do these things as well. Am I ignoring these things? Nope. I know they are there. I just think they were for a certain time and place.

Since you know me pretty well, it is safe to say that you know I am a leader. I always have been. In every area of my life I have been a leader. It seems odd to me that my gifts would be welcome everywhere but the one place it matters the most.

Once I started to feeling called to ministry (and by that I mean ministry in general), things got pretty intense. I have done a lot of reading on both sides of the issue. If you are interested in discussing more take a look at Discovering Biblical Equality by Pierce and Groothius. I read this alongside Piper’s Recovering Biblical Masculinity and Femininity and really learned a lot.

Well, I guess that’s all for now. It’s been a long day and I am tired. I hope you will be able to see that I am trying to honor God with my life regardless of the fact that we may always disagree on this issue.

Grace and peace,
Sara <><


servant of ixthus

December 11, 2008

ixthusAnother friend of mine just started blogging at servant of ixthus’ blog.  He is in youth ministry and has two young children.  He and his wife will also be adopting a child from Africa in the near future.  He is a very thoughtful person so I am sure his posts will be worth reading.  Stop by and welcome him to the blogosphere if you get the chance. 

Photo by: pwbaker

dear sara

December 4, 2008

mcdear sara

      i love you.  we are playing hooooky today.  my mommy has to go to the dentist at noon.  pray that she will live?

i love you.  i love you.  i love you.  how’s your day going?  i love you.  what are you doing?  i love you.  what’s your favorite color?  i love you.  my favorite color is pink.  do you have a teddy?  today, my teddy is bleat, the goat.  my mommy named him that.  bleat was her first goat, and consequently, bleat was my first goat too!  i love you!  mommy says, “what else?”


   i say, “i don’t know.”  my mommy took this picture this morning and now her camera’s card reader is DEAD so she has lucy off to new jersey.  so you will have to pictures of me for awhile.  will you please take pictures of me till lucy comes back?  i love you.

i wonder what lucy is going to come back in.


mommy says, “a box.”


“why?  what would she come back in a box?  the mail?”


“yes, sugarbit, the mail.”


“sugar.  put i love you up there.”  i point to the top of the computer.


i go kook.  i don’t dafoofoof.  i waaaayyyy.  fi fi ha.  fi ha heah heah.


“are you done, mc?” mommy says.


i reply in strange baby language and mommy seems to be tired of that game.


“i’m not tired of it,” i say, three times.


“we have to go now cake.  say goodbye”


“don’t take a shower now”


“i’m taking a shower.  say goodbye honeypie.”




oh that is funny, mommy says under her breath.


“good-bye,” i say.


bye bye says mommy.


i love you.


bye, love, mc


typeed by mommy hope you like the picture!

Emotional Quotient

December 1, 2008

I have been wanting to blog about EQ (Emotional Quotient) for a while now.  Ever since a friend of mine introduced the idea to me really.  It is intriguing.  I don’t understand all the ins and outs of it, but basically it goes something like this.  IQ (intelligence Quotient) is a measure of your intellectual capability and to a certain degree, places limits on what you should be able to accomplish in the way of higher education.  There are quite a few break downs or “reference charts” but here’s an example breakdown from wikipedia:

IQ Range (15SD)

Intelligence Classification


Profound Mental Retardation


Severe Mental Retardation


Moderate Mental Retardation


Mild Mental Retardation


Borderline Mental Retardation


Average Intelligence




Moderately Gifted


Highly Gifted


Exceptionally Gifted

Over 175

Profoundly Gifted

I couldn’t find one that I have seen before, but for each “classification” there is an expected limit to the level of education an individual would be able to complete.  (i.e., somewhere around “Moderately Gifted” and above would be able to accomplish a Ph-D).

So if IQ is a measure of intellectual ability, EQ is a measure of emotional ability or, as I have seen a few places, Emotional Intelligence.  Though some seem to think it’s a bunch of hogwash, the theory is that even if someone has a lower IQ but a high EQ it would allow them to accomplish things beyond what is expected of their IQ classification.  When my friend was telling me about all this, he mentioned that IQ cannot really be changed or improved, but EQ can.  Interesting.

So I just took a random emotional litercy test (the emotional IQ test was $8.99) and it was 12 questions long (and FREE).  They described it this way:

Emotional intelligence is not merely about controlling emotional responses for one’s own benefit an; that of others. It is also about using emotion where suitable. Emotion is, after all, at the heart of that sincerity which reassures, persuades and affords confidence; emotion triggers flight or fight, sometime-appropriately; emotion is necessary if we are to cope, for example, with bereavement; emotion can lie at the source of our greatest joys. The emotionally intelligent are like parents to their emotions, acknowledging their needs, loving them, indulging them where appropriate, encouraging their creativity yet restraining them from foolish, destructive or discourteous behaviour. To extend the metaphor, the emotionally intelligent are neither of the school which believes that emotions should be repressed – “seen but not heard,” nor of that which would allow the little darlings to “express themselves freely to the discomfort or dismay of others. Emotional literacy with regard to others can only be learner by reference to the ABC of one’s own emotions. If, therefore, you are not at ease with your own emotions, you will find it hard to relate to others and to respond appropriately to them.

After answering the questions here’s what it said:

Your robust attempts to master your emotions are praiseworthy but frequently ill-judged and unsympathetic. You defend yourself from “unworthy” emotions by simulating appropriate responses, but you tend to give rent-free space in your head to people and things which were better considered, understood and consigned to the emotional data-bank for subsequent use. Try allowing emotions, even emotions which seem unworthy – anger, fear, frailty, depression, etc. – into harmless contexts such as when listening to music or watching films, explore them and acknowledge them. They are part of the armoury of wisdom.

Although I get a little lost in the language they use here, I think there’s some truth to their summary.  Food for thought.